Eye Candy

We all have our "bad days", and it’s not just because we’re fat. EVERYONE has bad days. But every now and then, someone will make a snide comment, or just look at us a certain way. You know the look I’m talking about. It’s that disapproving, snobbish, judgmental glare. Then, suddenly … all that confidence that we have worked so hard to build just seems to evaporate into thin air.

Those kinds of days can really drain our self-confidence. For that reason, we need to regularly "recharge our batteries", or our belief in ourselves. Today's post is going to be a treat, because it's all about reminding ourselves how beautiful we are.

Big women ARE beautiful. Big women are just as beautiful as thin women. We are just packaged differently. We have more curves. Some of our body parts have a little more emphasis than others. J It’s true that sometimes it’s difficult and a hassle to find clothes that flatter us the way we want them to, but it’s not impossible. It just takes a little determination, research, and selectivity.  

If you have even the slightest doubt that your large body can be beautiful, I’ve assembled a few pictures to prove differently. Enjoy them. Emulate them. Realize that you can be just as beautiful, just as confident, and just as glorious. You just have to believe in your beauty. Do not be shy about displaying your assets.

Our first big, beautiful role model is Velvet D’Amour.

Velvet grew up in Rochester, New York and worked as a model in Paris – the snobbiest fashion capital of the world. In 2006 and 2007, she gained fame as a runway model for John Galliano and Jean-Paul Gaulthier. At the time of her runway appearances, Velvet weighed approximately 300 pounds. She is 5’8”. She has also appeared in a feature film called “Avida”, in which she played the title role. Velvet also works as a photographer. Just take a look at these photos, and anyone can see that she is stunningly beautiful.

  

Next up is big, gorgeous Beth Ditto:

Beth Ditto is the lead singer for the indie rock band Gossip. She was born in Arkansas, but moved to Portland, Oregon when she was 13. Due to the fact that she is lead singer for a rock band, and as you can see from her pictures, it’s obvious that Beth is no shrinking violet. She is not the least bit afraid to put herself out there. In an interview with her, one rock journalist gushed: “Her body is mesmeric. Rolls and folds topped with an adorable heart-shaped face. Having never had the least desire to paint, I’m suddenly overcome with an urge to take up oils and have a bash at capturing the play of light across her love handles. No wonder she’s a muse to just about every designer going.”

I love the picture with the lipstick kiss on her ass. Yes, that says it all. Go, Beth! You rock.

Now, in this post about celebrating the beauty of large women, I need to acknowledge and salute a male artist. Les Toil attended the Academy of Art in San Francisco. He adores big, beautiful women, and his fun, sexy “pinup”-style artwork totally conveys his admiration for our big, round, voluptuous bodies. He has illustrated cd covers and posters for Tori Amos, Alanis Morrissette, and The Offspring, and his artwork has even made appearances in films. Here are a few of my favourite Les Toil images:

Finally, I cannot close this post without bringing your attention to adipostivity.com. Substantia Jones, a photographer in New York City, promotes size acceptance through her photography. She photographs both men and women, usually nude or scantily clad, and takes some of the most stunning, celebratory photographs I have ever seen. If you ever want to feel that you are not just beautiful, but a work of art, go check out her photography. Here are some lovely examples of her work:

If you ever had any doubts about your potential to be absolutely gorgeous the way you are RIGHT NOW, I hope I helped dispel them in this post. Beauty does not come in one size. When you believe in yourself, and allow your beauty to shine, you will be amazed how people will respond to you, and how great you will feel.

It doesn’t mean that everyone is going to be attracted to you … and that’s okay! There is no need to take it personally. Of course it's disappointing if someone you’re attracted to is not attracted to you in return. However, that can happen to anyone, fat or thin. Everyone has their own particular tastes. You can have the thinnest bikini body and still not have the right chemistry with a certain person. It’s more about confidence, chemistry, and compatibility. 

Don’t ever allow anyone to tell you that you are not beautiful. Strut your stuff and get out there. Work it, girl!