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Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Internet Dating

The internet has become the perfect venue for a lot of people trying to meet someone special, especially for BBWs who may find it challenging to meet men. It’s convenient, it’s comfortable, and it’s anonymous. You can just have fun and flirt, or try to make a serious love connection -- but it definitely has its drawbacks. The most notable is that the normal rules of social conduct don’t necessarily apply. For this reason, men tend to say things to women that they would never say if they were face-to-face with her, a common complaint among BBWs.

In the age of chivalry, there used to be something called “courtly love”, where the men would idealize the women they admired, write them poems, or strum songs of their undying love. When Henry VIII fell in love with Anne Boleyn, a woman he felt such passion for that he chose excommunication rather than losing her, he wrote her aching love letters, referring to himself as “her loyal servant”. The thought of being separated from her was “almost intolerable” except for his “firm hope of your indissoluble affection”.

A few “rules” or elements of courtly love, according to 12th-century Frenchman Andreas Cappelanus, were: “The easy attainment of love makes it of little value; difficulty of attainment makes it prized” … “A man in love is always apprehensive” … “A true lover considers nothing good except what he thinks will please his beloved.”

Times sure have changed.

Due to the distance and anonymity of the internet, men today seem to think that flirting with a woman includes an explicit description of his anatomical parts (real or imaginary), and an equally lengthy description of the sexual activities he prefers (ditto). Either that, or they fire off an equally perplexing one-liner that says something like, “Hey. Looking for a BBW. Hit me up.”

Guys, seriously … what kind of a response do you expect to get from these emails? If you are using the internet to meet a BBW, treat her the same way you would treat any other woman, but most importantly, imagine that you are meeting her in real life. Would you honestly go up to a woman and say: “Hi! I have a 9-inch dick, and I love oral sex!” Or: “Hey. Looking for a BBW.” Do you seriously expect her to be enthusiastic with that kind of approach? Only a nymphomaniac would go for approach number one, and only a totally desperate woman would consider approach number two appealing.

So, you guys may ask: How does one go about meeting a large woman? Exactly the same way you’d approach any other woman, with one important distinction. A lot of larger women aren’t used to male attention. Some of them are even amazed that a man would approach them, and may come off as a bit cold or standoffish. She has probably been told, for much of her life, that she is unattractive and undesirable. For that reason, she may be understandably suspicious and confused when you approach her, so it’s best to keep that in mind.

Unlike medieval times, we aren’t expecting you to fight a war or joust to the death to impress us. But be a gentleman. If you find her attractive, tell her. But save what you’d like to do with her in bed for when it actually happens -- which likely won’t be the first date. You might be blowing off steam and enacting your sexual fantasies in your emails, but you aren’t going to forge any lasting relationships with them.

Likewise, if you’re interested in developing a relationship with her, show some interest in her. Start an actual conversation! Ask her what her interests are, and what she likes to do. Show some interest in HER, not just her body. Men tend to either talk endlessly about themselves, or not at all. Be balanced. Don’t make it all about you, but give her some idea about who you are too.

Most importantly: let her discover your penis size and sexual preferences for herself, if she’s so inclined. Remember, you’re trying to get a date with her, not submitting an entry to Penthouse Forum.

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